SCINTILLATORâ„¢ EMOTING STYLE
This personality personifies warm sunshine, convivial laughter and hail-good-fellow heartiness. When dark clouds gather, they are the ones with silver-lining already in pocket. They’ve been called fickle, capricious, lazy and funny. Their historical fame is optimism; their evolutionary name is Scintillator. If pessimists weigh one side of life’s teeter-totter, Scintillators weigh the other. Their purpose is to remind all that life is more ripe with joy than rift by sorrow. No matter the test, tisk or task, the soul is happier, the mind is quicker and the step lighter throughout, when laughter and appreciation accompany.
INTIMACY & EMOTION
“People who need people are the luckiest people in the world.” For others, these may just be words from Barbra Streisand’s classic song. For Scintillators it is the song of life. As for the luck part, well…that depends on whether Scintillator is carrying their own mirror or not.
Scintillators are first and foremost physical beings. They filter life through their physical dimension and bodily react before their intellectual and emotional dimensions have opportunity to get involved. Scintillators are kinesthetic beings who learn by physically interacting with the world. They also generate one of the largest energy fields that, like the geyser Old Faithful, ever-brews and seeks internal-pressure release.
Regardless of age, Scintillators are characteristically the fidgeters and squirmers among us. The ones who work and worry chairs with incessant tap, shuffle, scratch and shift. Being regularly reprimanded for restless behaviour and distracting animation is common for Scintillator children.
Their energy-intellect is so sonar-sophisticated and sensitive, Scintillators can bodily feel energy moods of others or rooms. Before intellectual or emotional dimensions have time to analyze and prescribe action, their body responds instinctively. For them, and all physical beings, body-instinct can be blessing or curse. How Scintillator children cope with their physical nature has life-long consequences.
No other as tribal-dependent
Scintillators are people-pleasers whose greatest desire is unconditional acceptance from others. As infants they fuss less, smile more and talk earlier than others. By the age of three they’ve already established a lifelong, apple-of-the-eye relationship with one or both parents. One characteristic of Scintillator children is stand-out attractiveness, and don’t they know it.
These little tykes soon develop a fussiness about aspects of their small world, such as: favourite food and how they like it prepared; clothes they will or will not wear; neatness of appearance and wardrobe; a habit of smelling their food or taking rabbit nibble pre-tastes before eating; and a fastidiousness about personal hygiene. They master early the art of converting physical assets into personal advantages; usually to charm their way out of trouble or to worm their way into another’s affection.
Scintillator children are openly affectionate and playful. They prefer the company of adults and older siblings, who are often enchanted by their pint-sized antics and precocity. It doesn’t take them long to realize that adult appreciation and applause comes quicker and rings louder than that of their peers.
Many child actors and models are Scintillators…not only because of their attractiveness but because of their distinct eagerness to please. With praise they can be encouraged to go that extra mile or put forth that extra effort when needed. Scintillators like others to be happy, especially with them. As they mature, they tend to trade on their physical comeliness more often than others. Generally, these are the Peter Pans who look and often act younger than their chronological age. They are also the ones who suffer great insecurities about growing old.
A gift for comedy and entertainment
Some personalities are peacocks, some perfectionists, some are schemers, some dreamers, but Scintillators are the songbirds. They brighten the day, the way and the world with their Pollyanna optimism, winsome smiles and melodious laughter. They have evolutionarily been the Court Jestersâ€”the quick-thinking provocateurs in royal households. Scintillators are as athletic of mind as of body and harbour an artistic nature, as though born to perform and create. They are particularly astute at summing up complex situations and tying all neatly together with comic twist or glib bow. Keen observation and comic interpretation are this style’s gifts.
Scintillators filter life through their physical body, so their life approach tends to be more reactive than proactiveâ€”and can be more harmful than beneficial. In the acting profession there’s a maxim, “the more specific, the better the performance.” Whether life imitates art or art imitates life, the wisdom rings equally true: excellence rests at the bottom of moments. Finding it and bringing it out is a drown-deep dive, where all dimensionsâ€”physical/mental/emotional are focused and risked before best reveals. They tend to relate and react one-dimensionally: physically.
Limiting their choices and experiences to what’s floating on life’s surface. Could be cream? Could be scum? By not risking, by not immersing their whole in challenges presented, Scintillators are left with two options: take it or leave it.
Belief is mind-knowledge, the sum of which is identity. Ego is identity’s representative that interacts with the world according to, and in accordance with, each individual’s belief. Scintillators have fine, even superior identities and large, strong egos to represent it. If a human mind is a terrible thing to waste, how much more terrible is it, to ignore potential? Of all, none hears more often, “Not living up to potential,” than Scintillators do.
With all their God-given gifts, such as intellect; physical attractiveness; deftness of hand, foot, and mouth; kinesthetic memory; robust constitution; optimistic nature; and energy-sensitivity as accurate as sonar to dolphin, Scintillators still tend to settle for toe-dipping rather than deep-diving explorations. Why is this personality the one most likely to: be daddy’s little girl or momma’s boy far into adulthood; be financially struggling at middle-age; have multiple marriages and divorces; have addictions to drugs or alcohol; and be the ones who abandon their children, physically, emotionally, and financially? Because Scintillators subscribe to physical satisfaction rather than emotional fulfillment.
Satisfaction versus fulfillment
If every life experience were a jawbreaker confection, Scintillators stop at physical satisfaction. They suck their jawbreaker until the licorice-flavoured coating is removed, then spit out the rest. Emotional fulfillment is had by savouring the whole of the jawbreaker experience; appreciating the inherent complexity within the variety of colour and flavour layers and discovering the unexpected surprise at the end: a lowly spice seed. A bitter tasting seed perhaps, but in the tasting contrast, two messages are folded. One reminds of all the sweetness and wonder that went before; the other rewards with forever learning the secret of jawbreakers: their humble, bitter-brown beginning. Such lessons and rewards only reveal after commitment of self through time to discover more flavours than licorice and more sweet than bitter…in jawbreakers and in life.
The Achilles’ heel for Scintillators is abandonment, which they expect to happen if or when they disappoint others. When relationship responsibilities grow and commitment roots are called for, Scintillators tend to leave rather than chance disappointmentâ€”their equivalent of personal failure. When disagreements occur and nose-to-nose accountability seems inevitable, Scintillators tend to head for the door rather than stand their ground and clear issues. Though cowardice seeming, cowardice has nothing to do with it. The cause and culprit is physical pain.
Scintillators filter everything, first, through their tuning-fork-sensitive physical body. They feel first, react, and only later review the emotional and intellectual consequences. Positive feedback is pleasurable; it feels good. They react by staying physically in the moment, allowing their emotional and intellectual dimensions to experience the fun. Negative feedback, such as confrontation, is felt as physical pain; it hurts. As others reflex-jerk from flame, Scintillators reflex-retreat from confrontation. Sometimes they can step back long enough for reason and emotions to kick in; sometimes the pain is so sharp and quick they strike out in mindless self-defense. Most often, they’re so overwhelmed they must leave. Only when pain subsides can they rationally appraise the situation. By then they’ve often got two problems to deal with: the one that precipitated the argument, and the one caused by their exit.
When they return, (and they always do), others have stewed in frustration juices long enough to have drawn their own, usually unfavourable, conclusions. Scintillators are left with few options: one is accepting blame for having disappointed. Others would not be so quick to judge them cowardly or so quickly write these sensitive beings off, if they could but once walk in their shoes and experience how physically painful confrontation is to Scintillators. These individuals are often more a victim of their innate energy-gift than benefactor.
If for some it is true, “I am what I think,” for Scintillators it is usually, “I am what you think I am.” Like children, they do not separate self from issues. For them, confrontation is a one-way ticket destined for rejection; tantamount to throwing the baby out with the bath water. Leaving is not cowardice; its self-preservation. When they do return to the “scene of their crime,” they fully expect to first meet rejection, then abandonment. For people-pleasing dependents, abandonment is the greatest fear of all. Scintillators tend to leave before that shoe can drop.
Svengalis and King Makers could not find
more malleable, willing clay than Scintillators
The single greatest challenge for Scintillators is to develop a strong belief in self; to trust no image other than the one reflected in their hand-held mirror. The greatest challenge for others in relationships with Scintillators is to ensure that if continuance is intended, that intention be made clear before and during confrontation. It is difficult for others to understand that Scintillators need to feel confident that no matter what, they’re still okay with others…especially with mates.
Most Scintillators have only experienced such unconditional acceptance from one or both doting parents. They understood their Scintillator child’s need to run at the drop of anger’s hat, knowing that as soon as they’d had time to think, they’d return ready to deal with contentious issues. Scintillators may spend most of their adult lives looking for a mate just like the mate that married dear old mom or dad.
Few personalities depend on the encouragement and positive feedback of others, like Scintillators do. Fewer yet, reply and repay with such passion, irrepressible enthusiasm, or potential to raze mountain and move world as them…when unconditional support is given. These individuals must exercise high discretion in choosing a mate. The right life-partner (and right work and educational environment) can make all the difference to them, in terms of professional success and personal happiness.
Scintillators are energy-intellects who feel acceptance or rejection from others. For them, reality is that which they can directly control. When children, they performed, socialized and directly influenced outcomes. When adult, those long-habituated, manipulative skills work equally well, generally. Scintillators often become masters of seduction. They can cajole, humour, and often directly control and maintain their required positive energy-flow.
When unable to charismatically influence they may seek alternate means of maintaining their good-feeling high. Medicine cabinets of Scintillators tend to be well-stocked with pharmacological fixes. If Scintillators use tobacco, they will have their first cigarette shortly after feet hit the floor after waking. Chocoholics, or those “sweet-tooths” among us, often are dominant Scintillator in the working or emoting realms of their Profile.
They seem to need a certain level of body energy to function effectively and willâ€”by hook or by crookâ€”attain and sustain it. Scintillators are addiction-prone. Conversely and notably, they’re also health, fitness and nutrition innovators. Their bodies are generally so sensitive they can feel the energy ambiance of a room upon entering, and from the doorway decide, “go,” or “stay”. Their energy-guided hands can give a body massage seemingly beyond mortal capability. No other constitution is as responsive or benefits as quickly from proper diet and regular exercise, as theirs. Scintillators bounce back, comparatively.
The two challenges for Scintillators entail responsibility
The first is to stop running when it hurts. Instead, start digging. Go deep, then deeper. Underneath the pain is your self mirror…one that no other can hold, shatter or break. The image reflected therein is clear and true. Trust it. Trust you. The second is communicate feelings. No matter how painful, no matter how tentative or shaky those coltish legs initially, know that your voice will steady and grow strong with use. Otherwise, you may not ever discover the complexity, the wonder in all the layers, flavours, and possibilities within that marvelous human confection, the Scintillator jawbreaker. To repudiate your own birth gifts, of which you’ve many, is to diminish greatness to fool and deny potential that is the unique privilege of Scintillators.
People who need people may be the luckiest of people but for Scintillator, luck is not enough. Their evolutionary purpose is to BE the person other people need.
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